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What Husbands Wish Their Wives Knew About Sex

Ok… so maybe not ALL husbands wish their wives knew this stuff. But MY husband does. But my husband also has a unique perspective. He hears it all. Not just the tales of exploits in the locker room, but also the brokenness that men confess when they are alone with him. He hears how dysfunctional their sex lives are. He hears how distorted their view of God-centered sexuality is. Really… he hears it all.

There’s been a few couples on my heart lately who are dealing with intimacy issues. So I asked Daniel, what are three things you wish all wives knew about sex. It didn’t take long for him to rattle this off:

  • We really do think about it as much as people say we do.
  • All men are insecure about it. Only some admit it.
  • Husbands want their wives to freely offer themselves.

First, back in 1948 Alfred Kinsey released a controversial sex study that said men think about sex once every 7 seconds. Later research lowers those numbers a bit, but the truth is men think about sex A LOT. Not just dirty or perverted men. Holy, godly, even pastoral men think about sex A LOT.

Now ladies, here’s the challenge for you. That’s ok. God is the one who created man in HIS image. I’m not saying that it’s ok to have adulterous or lustful thoughts. Jesus obviously laid down the law on that (Read Matt. 5:27-29). But the fact that your husband is a sexual creature is not a curse, but a gift from God. If you doubt me, go spend some time reading the Song of Solomon. Solomon, in chapter 4 says thing like:

Your breasts are like two fawns, twin fawns of a gazelle grazing among the lilies… You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way. Come with… my bride… You have captured my heart, my treasure, my bride. You hold it hostage with one glance of your eyes… Your love is better than wine, your perfume more fragrant than spices. Your lips are as sweet as nectar, my bride. Honey and milk are under your tongue… You are my private garden, my treasure, my bride, a secluded spring, a hidden fountain. Your thighs shelter a paradise of pomegranates with rare spices…

Breasts, love like wine, thighs sheltering a paradise. Sounds like sex to me. And God wrote about it. There is a place for God-centered sexuality. We shouldn’t judge our husbands for it. We should embrace their God-given heart and learn to appreciate his sexuality and what it can do for us… but we’ll talk about that part of it later.

Now, let’s deal with this insecurity thing. All men are insecure about sex. Really? Really.

You ladies may be thinking about the macho, ladies man who seems to have women dropping at his feet. He’s not insecure. Yes. In fact, the truth behind the facade is that he is very insecure.  He is hiding behind sexual prowess to make him feel like a man that he doesn’t really believe he is.

Remember hiding is what men  have done ever since the garden. When Adam realized he was naked and ashamed, what did he do? Hide (Gen. 3). When a man’s insecurity is flared he hides behind the nearest “fig leaf.”

Our marriage counselor described it to me like this, “If a woman’s life were a table, it would balance on 15-16 different legs, her friendships, her family, career, sexuality, etc…” We receive our validation from a myriad of different facets of our lives. However, he said, “A man’s life balances on only one leg of the table, his sexuality.” When a man feels “less-than” in bed, all other aspects of his life are out of sync.

In John Eldredge’s book Wild at Heart, he contends that all men have one core question, “Do I have what it takes?” That’s what fuels a man. When a man doesn’t feel like he has what it takes to sexually satisfy his wife, the answer to his core question is “No, I don’t have what it takes.” That combination is fatal to his strength.

I want you to think about this ladies, every time you reject your husband’s sexual advances, you are scraping the wound of his insecurity. Every time you may mock his sexuality, you are driving a nail in his heart and a wedge between you. Every time your actions say, “No, you don’t have what it takes” you are mortally wounding the man you promised to sustain.

That conveniently leads to the third point. Men want their wives to freely offer themselves. How would you feel if every birthday and anniversary you longingly looked at your husband and said, “Please, please, please, will you get me a present? Please, please, please remember me.” You would be down right mad at your husband. He should know that’s important to you. He should remember and respect you enough to give you something special.

So, now, flip the tables. You know your husband wants sex. Do you offer it freely? Do you make him “earn it”? Do you deny him if he hasn’t lived up to your expectations?

God did not create sex as a tool of manipulation or even just a bonus for men. God created sex to be a mutual place of intimacy and gratification. Solomon’s woman said, “I am my lover’s and he is mine” (SoS 6:3).

Tomorrow I will talk about some of the obstacles that we women face in being able to “freely give.” For now think about Paul’s words on sex in marriage from 1 Cor 7 (MSG).

Is it a good thing to have sexual relations? Certainly—but only within a certain context. It’s good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights.” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out.

 

Aug 16, 2012Serena
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Comments: 32
  1. Kristi
    13 years ago

    I have a real problem with the myth this article is perpetuating. The writing assumes that women aren’t interested in sex, that we don’t have high drives, and that it’s entirely up to us to present ourselves to our men and let them use our bodies because we’re not interested. Song of Solomon is full of words talking about the woman’s desire for her man. Let’s not keep pushing through the myth that men are the sex lovers and women have to suck it up and take it.

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    • Serena
      13 years ago

      Don’t worry. That’s tomorrow’s topic.

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      • Serena
        13 years ago

        And to be frank, it’s not a myth that hundreds of Christians couples that we deal with have HUGE issues of dysfunction in their marriages. Shannon Ethridge, sites, in her book The Sexually Confident Wife, that only 8% of married women describe their sex lives as “very hot.” Another 21% described their sex lives as “routine and boring” and another 21% said, “What sex life?”

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        • fromscratchmom
          13 years ago

          So true. I’m glad you wrote this and will be covering the other side of the story tomorrow. People need help to overcome the problems of this fallen world where sin seeks to destroy every good gift from God, including the beauty of a great marriage bed.

          I know to people who are really suffering in marriage every article and every tip seems like their is something wrong with it. Maybe it is deficient in some way or maybe our problems are just so large that we have trouble keeping them from overshadowing the good that we need to be able to see. But there are plenty of marriages where these things are a problem and we do need to start trying to see what is really going on and what God’s real plan for giving this gift to us is. So lets read with an open mind and compare what we read to what we can find in the Bible and then continue to pray and meditate on the topic.

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    • Logan
      9 years ago

      I totally agree. Working on a year and a half of marriage and we don’t have this unhealthy idea that he is the “sexual”
      one and I am not. I want sex just as much as he does and there are times where he doesn’t want to, times where I don’t want to and times where we both want to and all of that is ok! We both have no problem with the other saying no. And we don’t have a problem with not having “enough sex.” I’m sick of all this pressure we try to put women under to “perform.” Instead of that, why don’t we see what’s blocking a woman’s natural desire for sex whether it’s shame, social messages like the article above that tells us we’re not supposed to like sex because that’s what men want or abuse. Asexuality is extremely rare so it’s doubtful most of these women that never want sex I’m always hearing about (but have yet to meet) are all asexual. Something else is going on to block their desires. Counseling would be better than shaming.

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      • Logan
        9 years ago

        Agree with Kristi that is.

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  2. Steve
    13 years ago

    Krisit I totally see your point and could see how it could come off that way but it’s not how some of the guys that have read it see it. This article sums up how many guys feel. From my own past failure I can say with all my heart that the attraction to go outside of my relationship was based in large part on the empty feeling and disconnect that I felt with the woman that truly loved me. It’s not that she was ugly or a failure or not satisfying in bed, it was solely that the spark and passion had left. I was too much of a coward to admit my insecurities and be open enough to express my desires. For some reason, we have been hard wired to distance our relationship with God from our lives in the bedroom. We believe that singing in the choir or being active in church negates our ability to be open, honest, and inhibition free in the bedroom.

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  3. CC
    13 years ago

    Very much agree with Kristi. What is a woman to do when her drive is much higher than his? When she is rejected over and over. Especially when you hear that so many other men want it all the time. Begins to make you feel as though “It must be that he’s just not attracked to me”

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    • Serena
      13 years ago

      Remember this is a short blog post and can’t deal with all specific situations. I am speaking generally of couples that we minister to. There are lots of reason a man may have a low sex drive, starting with medical reasons. Exploring some of those issues with a physician would be my first step. Then dealing with emotional wounds or insecurities in him that is preventing him from giving all of himself. I’ve heard it said that for some men, sex is nothing more than masturbation with a vagina. Just because a man is having a lot of sex, doesn’t mean the emotional and spiritual intimacy is there. There may be an obstacle that God can reveal and heal.

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    • Dan (The Husband)
      13 years ago

      CC,
      I might also suggest that if a husband has an abnormally low sex drive in the confines of his marriage bed, it could possibly be related to the fact that his sexual energy is being released in other areas. While it could be pornography or even infidelity, many men aren’t sexually aggressive (in a good way) with their wives because they feel inadequate and insecure with their abilities in bed. There could be many reasons for this…maybe the spouse had previous sexual partners before the marriage and so he feels as if he is in competition with “past lovers”. Instead of dealing with these insecurities openly, minimal sexual contact with their wives are managed with frequent masturbation. It could also be that being openly sexual scratches deeply into the wounds of the past. There’s just no way to know exactly how to deal with the issue you raise without one-on-one counseling. Sometimes it takes several sessions before you can begin to uncover the hidden reasons why a husband is frigid in the bed that God has called undefiled.

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    • fromscratchmom
      13 years ago

      Speaking from experience you may also find out that his drive is somehow unbelievable the opposite of her perception of his drive. Refer back to the second item on the list: All men are insecure about it. Only some admit it. Or even number three: Husbands want their wives to freely offer themselves. Either or both of these can be at play in his perception of your drive and his resulting behavior, which he may have no idea is behavior that is him rejecting you. Most of us poor flawed human beings have some deficiency in our perception of self. No matter how unbelievable is may seem that this could be the case I urge you to pray about it and specifically to pray that if it is a real yet hidden problem in your marriage that God will help the two of you to figure it and heal the mutual wounds.

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  4. Anonymous
    13 years ago

    Is this really true??? That for most men, their sense of self-worth is basically based on how good they are at having sex??? Am I misunderstanding something? That just…that seems like a sad existence, and I don’t understand how that could even be a Christian way of thinking of oneself.

    What about men aren’t married (assuming they practice abstinence)? How do they find self-worth? Do they switch to be sex-focused once they do married? I’m just…it’s hard to grasp this.

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    • Serena
      13 years ago

      I’m assuming you’re a woman. I will let my husband answer this so it comes straight from a man’s mouth. But in my years of marriage and counseling couples, I find it all to be true. I think one thing you said, “I don’t understand how that could even be a Christian way of thinking of oneself” is how a lot of women feel. But I believe that men’s sexuality is of God. God created both Adam and Eve in his image. Just as our feminine heart bears the image of our Maker, the masculine heart of man bears God’s image. It’s just how their made. If you are interested in exploring the topic more, I recommend reading WILD AT HEART by John Eldredge and Every Man’s Battle by Stephen Arterbun and Fred Stoeker.

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  5. Erin
    13 years ago

    I don’t believe that God created men to have their esteem rest solely on their sexuality. Are men created with a strong drive for sex? Sure. Just as women are but more needs to be in place for a woman for that desire to be expressed. I disagree that the focus of a man’s ego on his sexuarliy is a Godly trait. A man or woman’s esteem rests in the extent to which he/she is emulating Christ and fulfiling other life responsibilities to care of blessings that God gave each of us. Sex is sacred, blessed by God, created by Him, and part of this stewardship, but it is not the primary leg upon which a Godly man’s esteem should stand, nor is a wife resposible for that esteem in a way that negates his responsibility to his God.

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  6. Paul
    13 years ago

    The only thing I can say to any who disagree with this is, “if you only knew” how true it all is and I truly thank you for showing that our desires are God given and not just a devilish mindset. I’ve often thought of Yahweh’s wisdom in it all; despite man’s ongoing rebellion, God made sex in such a way that guaranteed the continuation of mankind. A woman may question that a man’s sense of physical/emotional self esteem rests primarily [I didn’t say only!] on his sexuality, but it is indeed the most basic measure to himself. To deny this on the basis of not understanding it is equivalent to we [men] trivializing the importance of a comprehensive love [i.e., emotional, nurturing, protecting, encouraging, spiritual, physical] which a woman rightfully desires of her husband. I would challenge our sisters to contemplate that Adam had pure and full communion with God in the garden of Eden, yet Yahweh in all His wisdom Himself stated, “It is not good that man should be alone”. Gen. 2:18. God had already fashioned man with the desires and need for a “helper comparable to him”.

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  7. Nathan
    13 years ago

    First, great post. Well said and greatly needed.

    I would tend to agree with Erin about the ego thing. There’s no doubt that, for many men, sexuality IS the end-all of their self-esteem, self-image, and self-confidence. And there’s no doubt that for a lot of men in the world, their life does balance on a one-leg table of sex. But that’s a short-sighted and shallow foundation that simply must not be what a Christian man builds his life on.

    There’s no doubt sex is important, sacred, and foundational to a successful marriage–it is truly one of the glorious creations of God. And there’s no doubt that it occupies the thoughts of Christian men. But it is not eternal, which should say something about the value we place on it. It is something that, if we are called to, we must crucify in the service of Christ. And it is something that we can very easily turn into an idol by making it too central to our lives, just as the vast majority of the world has.

    I can’t help but wonder how many Christian men would find themselves walking the path of the Rich Young Ruler if Christ called on them to give up sex. Surely, anyone who has allowed it to be the sole foundation of their lives would be tempted to walk away sorrowful.

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    • Serena
      13 years ago

      I completely agree on the idol aspect. But there is only one time Jesus mentions giving sex up and its only for the few that are able to accept it. “For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Let the one who is able to receive this receive it.” Mt. 19:12

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      • Nathan
        13 years ago

        The only recorded instance, but he has called on other men to make the sacrifice: the man whose wife has a stroke and is paralyzed for life or the man whose wife is in an accident and winds up in a decade-long coma, for example. It’s hypothetical for most (sort of like being told to give away one’s possessions is), but it’s a decision that must be made as surely as anything else in the “everything” category of what we must surrender to Christ.

        I suppose that’s really my point: any man who allows sex to be the one leg of a table that undergirds his everything has already made it an idol.

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  8. Carolyn
    13 years ago

    How much a man thinks about sex is unique to the man. It also depends on the stage of life for the man and health issues as well. Ladies, this blog has nothing to do with our sex drives or problems. It is merely stating what men want based on Serena’s research. And I have to agree with her. Does this cure all problems, NO. Does this mean there are times when you are sooo tired or soooo sick or soooo pregnant that you feel that you must “perform”? No, but there must be open communication and ways for you to make sure that your husband does not feel that you are rejecting him. And these times should be infrequent, not habitual. For specific problems, counseling may help. I admire Serena for the courage that it took to post this blog.

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  9. Susan
    13 years ago

    I am shocked and dismayed at how many women are not reading the article for what it is, a description of what men wished their wives knew. We cannot, as wives, bury our heads and not learn from men what they are wanting. We need to ask them to find out. When asked they will most of the time be straight up if we are seeking to expand our knowledge.

    Some women do have stronger sex drives, but that isn’t really the story here. That is another story for another day. The story for today is for us as wives to try to understand our husbands a little better.

    I appreciate a willingness of wives to desire to fulfill their husbands while they are working thru this life. We cannot support and encourage that which we don’t understand. Let’s try to understand our husbands a little better and fulfill our portion of the assignment God gave us, to be a help meet.

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  10. Stefanie
    13 years ago

    I don’t like how this article is acting as though we should just lay down and spread our legs any time our husbands want sex. Sex is a 2 way street. Sometimes he wants it, and I don’t feel good, or I had a long day and just want to cuddle. I feel like this is almost saying we aren’t good enough for our husbands and we are hurting him every time we say no. If I said yes every time he wanted sex, I’d never leave the bed. Sex is as important to me as it is to him, but jeez.

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    • Serena
      13 years ago

      Make sure you read both posts on the subject. That’s not what the post is saying. In this post, I am simply saying that we need to be aware of what many men are struggling with. If we care about our husband’s emotional and spiritual well-being we won’t be afraid to deal with this. 1 Cor 7… “Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to stand up for your rights.”

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  11. Amber
    13 years ago

    Why is it so repulsive to acknowledge that men need sex to feel good about their marriage, but it is completely understandable when women say they need emotional connection to feel good about their marriage? The double standard in our culture regarding men’s needs vs. women’s needs is appalling to me. You may say that you feel like a prostitute to give him the sex he needs, but is he ever allowed to say you use him as a handyman, bill-payer, car-washer, baby butt-wiper and on top of that, he has to listen to all of your problems?! He’s not a psychiatrist, for crying out loud. My point is that we are supposed to be serving each other, and it’s a good thing to be reminded of what is important to men so that we wives can make them happy!

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  12. Stefanie
    13 years ago

    I completely agree with the fact that men need sex more then women do. I have had sex many times when I didn’t exactly WANT it or NEED it. What I am saying is that I don’t like the way some Christian Women all of a sudden decide that women are here for mens pleasure, and if we do not pleasure them when they want to be pleasured then we are not good wives. There are many other ways to make your husband happy other then putting out. I believe this to be the Christian write off of sorts… My husband is in a bad mood, so lets have sex. My husband is mad, lets have sex. My husband had a hard day at work, lets have sex. Sex isn’t the answer all the time.

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    • Serena
      13 years ago

      I try to be fair. I would ask for that in return. There is no message in my writing that sex is the answer all the time. You have jumped to an unfair conclusion based on what I wrote. And I do disagree on one fundamental. We are here for men’s pleasure. In fact that is the whole created purpose of women to be a ezer kenegdo or sustainer beside him. Sometimes the way we are called to sustain our husbands is sexually. Eve was created as a response to Adam’s need. As daughters of Eve we carry the same purpose. That doesn’t negate the role and duty of man by any means. The scripture puts a tremendous burden to be the Christ-figure in marriage (Eph. 5). And back to 1 Cor 7… once you say “I DO” your body belongs to another, for husband and wife.

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      • Logan
        9 years ago

        We are here for God’s pleasure. God is the one that decided that it was not good for Adam to be alone, not Adam. And though the first interpersonal human relationship was sexual through procreational necessity, we can be there for each other in community as Brothers and Sisters without sexual relationship. To say women are solely for a man’s pleasure is to distort the Gospel. We are created to live in community whether married or not but we are ultimately created for God’s pleasure not man’s. Your comment undermines the personhood and value of single woman as created by God for God’s pleasure with a purpose outside of marriage whether they ever marry or not.

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  13. Anonymous
    11 years ago

    I will say one thing tough. You can’t expect your man be all over you when you critize him or looking for everything he does wrong on daily basis.If you don’t think of what you say but you just say whatever, sex is not going to happen.Sex doesn’t start in bed, it starts with communication.what is he getting from you outside the bed? stress,anger,frustration?

    sometimes a stressful job,debt and wacky finances will kill their sex drive as well,because the only thing they think from the moment they wake up to the time they go sleep is ” how am I gonna pay the bills this month?” Make sure you are not the kind of woman that has to keep up with the Joneses.Women like that are a burden,not a privilege to have around.

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    • Serena
      11 years ago

      Amen

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  14. Leslie K
    10 years ago

    I can’t imagine not giving my husband the sex he needs (whether I need/want it) or not making him feel like he is a wonderful lover. I love being intimate with my man any day of the week. We have been married for 19.5 years and I have reached two hands on how many times I told him no. They were real reasons too. I wouldn’t dare cheat him out of what he needs. Thank-you, Lord, for my husband. If I ever make him feel less than how you made him, please open my eyes so I can change! Less of me in this instance.

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  15. Joshua
    6 years ago

    I’ve read this and the corresponding article for women. I also found this site from a third post which was the meat and potatoes of what led me to this blog. Unfortunately my marriage did not last but I DID give it my all! I mean I really, really tried hard. My wife was just like what Serena said she used to be like, regarding sex, controlling almost everything in life, disrespecting husband, etc. Granted, the woman I married did have a bad upbringing that I tried to help her heal from as much as possible but her unhealed wounds only “spilled out” upon our marriage, infecting and ruining it, while she refused to “go to the doctor and get proper treatment for the wounds” metaphorically speaking. She was saved, but I think satan had a big grip on her and limited how much help she would open herself to receive from God, me, or other wise people in her life. I don’t want people reading this comment to think that I’m all about trying to rail against my ex-wife, I’m only telling hard truths that others can learn from.

    I can just comment that my ex-wife having almost no care for my sexual needs was a large part of our demise. There were times where we were falling apart financially, I had really bad chronic pain in my back that almost no types of pain medication would relieve, kids being crazy because she wouldn’t let me discipline them, pressure from people at church and neighbors, etc… all of this stuff going on, and if she would have just offered to satisfy what she knew I wanted so badly for so long, it would have 100X’d my quality of life, even if temporarily. I really mean it. It would have taken me from the feeling of being a beat up homeless man living in a landfill, to feeling like I was getting to live a few minutes in the life of a billionaire! It really was or would have been THAT BIG of a deal! My quality of life was just barely above that of a homeless person, and I felt like I was literally killing myself trying so hard to rescue my wife and kids out of that mess (even though they were causing most of it!), but it was to no avail.

    I very well might have been able to handle a lot more of the problems going on in our life and help her a lot more than I already was, if she’d cared enough to give me what I needed. The Lord knows I loved her like Christ loved the church. I was extremely longsuffering, and I withheld anger towards her and my step-son far longer than what almost anyone else I know could have endured without losing control of their mouth or losing their mind. I always focused on satisfying her in bed, and she genuinely seemed pleased most of the time. I tried so hard to give her all the things she wanted, but ultimately money problems prevented me from fixing most of the problems or giving her what would satisfy her. I really do feel like I was putting in a lot more effort to do marriage right the way the Bible says than she did. She wouldn’t go to marriage counseling, never, but I get the impression she was worried the counselor would point out things she needed to fix that she didn’t want to have to admit, change, tackle, or openly repent for. She just had this “you are the problem there’s nothing I’m doing wrong” mentality and had this “my way or the highway” outlook on our marriage. Ultimately she decided she wanted the divorce and I just agreed to go through with it because I had no other choice. So from a Biblical standpoint, I never “put away my wife” like Paul says in 1 Corinth. 7:11. My situation was more akin to vs 15 (about letting an unbelieving spouse depart), though she is a believer (just not one willing to follow Biblical plan/guide for marriage behavior and attitudes, so acting similar to an unbeliever).

    I do believe that God is bringing me a new woman, a specific woman who He gave me a vision of and details about, to be my new wife, and we should meet in the next few years. This IS something I put forth extensive discernment and testing of the spirits over, I no longer doubt the origin of the vision and information I got in the spirit. Even if it does come true (which I expect) and she turns out to be just like I heard in my spirit (which I expect), I will still insist that she and I both spend ample time reading through this site as we get to know each other better so that I know she has a solid understanding of proper marriage mechanics, values, perspectives, etc (and I can learn and grow from here too) and I’d know we would be learning them from an excellent source (Serena). I believe that God is going to use the story of my life to help many people, just like it seems He’s done through this blog 🙂

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  16. AnonamousSurvivor
    5 years ago

    WHAT WOMEN WISH THEIR HUSBANDS REALLY KNEW:

    This article is pretty much implying that we women have to “control” our urges to make our men feel more “confident”?

    The OP does not understand that a woman’s uterus is literally like a bag of fluid. When a woman does not reach climax, the uterus expands,(which causes pain against internal organs) and builds up fluid inside of her causing her a mixture of emotional, physical, and spiritual pain which can lead to extreme measures of depression and Hysteria.
    (READ ABOUT IT HERE: https://www.mcgill.ca/oss/article/history-quackery/history-hysteria )

    This is such an ignorate post. The fact that men today have no idea about the wisdom and spirituality behind intimacy and sex with their partners today is very mind boggling. (I blame Religion and modern Science cause the Greek knew the wisdom of female anatomy perfectly..hence why Europeans are known as being the ‘best lovers’)

    We need more posts teaching men the reality on what happens to a woman who is left sexually unsatisfied, litterally… time, after time… after time.. (Just imagine today’s Feminists and their hate for men.)-Imagine how they feel. Useless. Like their partners don’t love or understand them, and like their husbands/partners don’t think they are worth the “effort.” (This is why women enjoy hardcore sex and getting “banged.” The build up of fluid can cause a women to act in very unmanned ways with frustration and anger, depression.. (hence the memes about ‘giving her the D’ comes from.)

    Women are extremely spiritual creatures. We function at different levels. Women also take on a lot of abuse in many forms in which they are told to “shut up” or “face the consequences” just to make sure they don’t hurt their husbands very much ignorate and selfish EGO and in the end, causes a huge build-up and a lot of supression.

    Men have to realize women are more than just someone who has to “build up her man” and also men cannot expect women to be “emotionally mature” and to be able to coddle their husbands who have literally no clue the harm and damage they are causing in their marriage to their wives/partners. Women are supposed to be the “postive” ones.. the “stronger ones” and the ones who have to make sure their husbands are not “insecure” just so they can continue the path of being sexually unsatisfied… but that’s okay cause her husband will keep on not loving her the way she needs cause she has to suppress her wants and needs to ensure her husbands ability to somewhat continue to spiritually/mentally/physically rape her over, and over, and over again.

    IF YOUR A HUSBAND READING THIS:
    As a women, I will tell you now that the Greek knew what they were talking about!! Follow the wisdom!! FOLLOW THE LINK: https://www.mcgill.ca/oss/article/history-quackery/history-hysteria

    GET INFORMED.

    I pray and hope this post reaches those in search of real answers to this dilemma, so we may awaken and live the lives God really intended for us as sexual creatures.

    GOD BLESS

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    • Serena
      5 years ago

      I hope you read the sister article to this as well.

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