And the two shall become one…
The only kind of girl a guy needs to date is the kind of girl he will marry.
Girls be this. Guys hold out for it.
1. He needs a sustainer.
The assault on the hearts of men is epic. God knew it would be. That is why he wove ezer kenegdo into the fabric of Eve and her daughters. Ezer kenegdo often gets watered down in our English bibles as “help meet.” God didn’t form Eve to be Adam’s secretary or housekeeper. God created her to be his sustainer beside him.
And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. Gen. 2:18
The only other person that is identified as being this kind of help is God himself in relationship to the children of Israel in their most desperate of times. Whoa.
I look up to the mountains— does my help come from there?
My help comes from the Lord, who made heaven and earth. Psalm 121:1
Ladies, your purpose is essential. You bear God’s image as a sustainer. Don’t mess around with the boys until you are ready to dig deep and offer your life-giving strength this way.
2. He needs a woman.
Little girls like to play princess. Little girls whine and complain when things don’t go their way. They manipulate with their emotions and throw fits. Women have grit. Real women aren’t petty or catty or self-serving. Real women offer their maturity, wisdom and grace.
She is clothed with strength and dignity... Prov. 31:25
3. He needs the real deal.
Be you. Girls leave the superficial stuff behind. Forget covering yourself up with too much make-up and expensive clothes. Don’t hid behind popularity, status or success. Let the real you through. Offer your truest self. It is the best thing you have to offer. And guys, it is the best thing she has to give.
Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain… Prov. 31:30
4. He needs to lead.
Ladies, shhhh. Talk less. Listen more. Give the man a chance to lead. Don’t squash his God-given ability to be a man. God ordained him as the head of the family and over his body, the church. Let him fulfill his call. Guys, don’t diminish your created purpose. Step up and lead.
Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. Prov. 31:23
5. He needs encouragement not nagging.
If she is constantly criticizing, offering “suggestions” and reminding you of all the things you need to say, do or be, consider yourself warned. Ladies, give it up. Let him do his thing. Encourage him. Speak affirmation. Instead of reminding him of his weaknesses, draw out his strengths. Let him know he’s got what it takes.
She tormented him with her nagging day after day until he was sick to death of it. Judges 16:16
6. He needs acceptance.
Stop trying to change him! I’m going to go ahead and say that again. STOP TRYING TO CHANGE HIM! If you are dating a guy you think needs fixed, move on. He is not a project or puppy you need to house train. He is a man and he is what he is. Love him as is. Embrace who he is and appreciate what he’s about.
Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. Prov. 31:11-12
7. He needs a partner.
From recreation to his life’s work, a man needs a partner. He needs someone shoulder to shoulder with him to share the adventure. It’s the way he’s made. Have fun together. Work toward a common goal side by side. And guys, if she isn’t ready to share your vision and embrace your mission, she’s not the one for you.
“It isn’t good for the man to live alone. I need to make a suitable partner for him…God gave them his blessing and said: Have a lot of children! Fill the earth with people and bring it under your control.” Gen. 1-2
8. He needs a woman who honors God-centered marriage.
If she leads you to lust she is leading you to destruction. Girls, cover it up. All of it. Until you are Mrs. Wife don’t offer your body in any quantity. Guys you need a woman who will help you guard your eyes and your heart. Marriage was created by God from the beginning of time. Honor it. Save yourself for it. Pledge yourself to it. Make sure the sacred vows of marriage are honored before and after the “I DO’s.”
For the lips of an immoral woman are as sweet as honey… But in the end she is as bitter as poison… Stay away from her… Share your love only with your wife… Prov. 5
Also see: What a Girl Needs: 8 Musts Before Marriage
