When Katie was in kindergarten she had her first boyfriend. Her mom thought it was so cute.
When Katie was in 6th grade she went to her first school dance with a boy. Her mom was giddy. She spent too much money on a dress and snapped too many pictures.
When Katie was in 7th grade she nervously kissed her first boy at a football game. Her mom thought, “my little girl is growing up.”
When Katie was in 8th grade she kissed her second and third boys. Her heart was broken for the first time. Her mom assured her that she may kiss a lot of toads, but one day she’ll find her prince.
When Katie was in the 9th grade she started making out with boyfriend #5. One night when they were watching a movie in his basement they went too far. Katie had sex. She didn’t tell her mother.
This is the story of The American Girl.
We scratch our heads and wonder why we have astronomical teen sex rates. We can’t figure out why STD’s are passed among high schoolers like the common cold. We wonder if handing out birth control pills and condoms will reduce unwanted pregnancies.
Friends, we are the ones who have set this ball in motion. We have sent the message that boyfriends are cute. We have delighted in their first kiss. We have trained our daughters that their sexual purity is for sale to the first boy who says “I love you.” Our daughters have traded their priceless virginity for nothing more than a cheap compliment from a horny teenage boy.
And our God is disgusted by it.
Do not prostitute thy daughter, to cause her to be a whore; lest the land fall to whoredom, and the land become full of wickedness. Lev. 19:29
God is disgusted.
We have a generation of lewd, raunchy, unholy children. So what do we do now? We need to:
1. Stop It
We need to repent. We need to stop thinking little kindergarten boyfriends are cute. We need to stop allowing our teens to be alone and giving them access to sex. We need to stop putting our children in adult situations and expecting them to make wise, God-honoring decisions.
We need to protect our daughters from the wiles of the devil and boys who regurgitate his words from hell. Instill modesty and pure conversation. Dressing for sex and talking about sex leads to sex. Our daughters are the priceless treasures of the King of All Kings. Treat them like it.
Cultivate relationships at home. Make a home a happy place. A lot of girls run into the arms of boy because it seems better than the mess at home.
4. Feed Her Passion
If your daughter is boy crazy, expand her horizon. Find something she is good at. Something her Creator put in her heart. Maybe it is playing the piano, art or writing. Her heart will be full when her life is a song sung to her Heavenly Father.
5. Intend Her For Marriage
Speak highly of marriage. Let her see you live a good marriage. Purpose her to give herself to only one. Play an active role in sparing her from a broken heart, marred sexuality and problems for her marriage in the future. Purpose her for marriage. Purpose her for holiness.Lord Most High,
Forgive us for giving our daughters away. Forgive us for not honoring your institution of holy marriage. Forgive us making common what is sacred. Forgive us. Convict our hearts and bring change. Please heal the brokenness we have caused. Please clean up the mess we made. Let us lift our daughters up as our unblemished offering to a God who is worthy.