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Let Go and Let Dad!

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Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord. Eph. 6:4

Sisters of the Society of Helicopter Moms, today you are being called to stop hovering. Today is the day you will let go and let Dad.

Today the pact is being signed, sealed and delivered. We will not get in Dad’s way of his God-given responsibility to raise his children, be involved in their lives and develop personal, intimate relationships with his children-without our prompting, criticism or on looking.

Today you will resolve to not speak of the way the children are:

Dressed

If your daughter is wearing winter boots on a 90 degree day, you will smile. If your son has on Thomas shoes, Batman pants and a Superman cape, you will tell him he looks awesome. If nothing is coordinated, weather appropriate or clean, you will give Dad a kiss on the cheek thanking him for the Dad he is.

You will not judge if they are:

Dirty

If their hair is matted, they have boogers in their nose and poo under their finger nails you will not say a word and quietly take your child to the closest bathroom for an emergency manicure.

Diet

Don’t ask, “So what’d you have for dinner?” Just don’t ask. One meal or an entire weekend of chicken nuggets will not insure stunted growth or scurvy.

Danger

Whether he is throwing them in the air or throwing knives in the backyard (true story), you will be thankful your kids are not pansies.

Now throw out all your control issues, fear and image consciousness and let go and let Dad!

This post was inspired by my amazing husband and father to my children, who does this:

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May 15, 2014Serena
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Comments: 7
  1. Rhonda
    8 years ago

    Scurvy. lol

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    • Serena
      8 years ago

      Well…

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  2. trish preston
    8 years ago

    I try to focus on the fact that he chooses to spend time /do things for or with them and not what crazy, what-is-he-thinking, weird thing he is doing to our children. So many men don’t try to be involved in their kids’ lives. This one does. 🙂

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  3. Hannah
    8 years ago

    “Sisters of the Society of Helicopter Moms” Ha ha ha! That’s perfect! Thanks for the reminder. My husband is a wonderful dad who loves his children. I need to remember that he doesn’t need my “hovering” to do what he does.

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  4. Sarah
    6 years ago

    No. Just no. If dad’s behavior puts kids at significant risk of bodily harm or disease, it is your responsibility to make. it. stop. You do not get to abdicate that responsibility under the guise of “helping dad build his relationship with the kids”. Your article conflates things that can be let go (occasionally eating chicken nuggets for dinner) with things that are dangerous (poo under fingernails and playing with knives) and those that are dangerous AND illegal (the picture, which if it is recent enough, could cause you to have your children taken from you).

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  5. Heather
    6 years ago

    i agree with sarah…there is a point when you step in. and it can be done lovingly and appropriately not in the sight of the children. it is important to stop being a helicopter with your husband (i’ve worked very VERY hard to stop being that wife) but there are just some things that are NOT okay. and communicating to him what that is in a loving and respectful manner is a very good thing. i’ve had to remind my husband that i am his partner in life and as his partner it is my job to say something when i’m not comfortable. it is your job too. like sarah said…there are things that are illegal and can get your kids taken away from you. their safety is within your control…

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  6. Bethany
    6 years ago

    I think the important thing to remember is that it isn’t up to you by yourself to determine what is dangerous or bad for your kids. Your husband isn’t stupid and he isn’t ignorant and just because you are mom doesn’t mean you magically learned how to take care of children better than dad. His standards may be more lenient than yours and you may need to step back and realize that doesn’t automatically make him wrong. Child rearing has to be a partnership between parents.

    I will also say that I’ve known couples who have it the opposite way too. Dad is the more cautious one and you shouldn’t disregard your spouse’s concerns just because you think it’s “too much” or an unnecessary precaution. I would expect my husband to likewise take into consideration my concerns. But ultimately a decision has to be made one way or the other and I cannot expect my husband to give over to me every time. Sometimes I have to give over to him, even when I think I’m right.

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