This is dedicated to all the brothers out there who are struggling to find and/or keep a good woman. If you want a good woman to commit to you in marriage, but can’t seem to close the deal. Well, this is what good women want you to know. This is how you lose a girl in 10 easy steps.
1. Be Lazy
We don’t want to carry the groceries in while you sit on the couch. We don’t want to be working overtime while you drink beer. We don’t want to mow the grass while you watch a baseball game. We want you to bust tail every bit as much as we do. So if you want to lose one of us fast, be lazy.
But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. 1 Tim 5:8
2. Be Gross
If you want to repel us good women in droves go ahead and be a slob. We don’t want to clean your apartment when we come over. We are repelled by your nasty toilet and the moldy dishes in your sink. We seriously don’t want to clean up after you for the rest of our lives. And if you really want to offend us, let your personal hygiene go out the window. We certainly don’t want to hold hands with your dirty finger nails or snuggle up to your bad breath.
How fragrant your cologne; your name is like its spreading fragrance. No wonder all the young women love you! Song of Solomon 1:3
3. Be Needy
Good women want to be valued, yes, but we don’t want a leech. We don’t want to pay for your dinner or be the sounding board for all your whining. We don’t want to hear how desperate you are for us or how empty your life would be without us. Get a life… in Christ. If you find your purpose in Jesus you won’t need us to prove your manhood.
Jesus replied, “I am the bread of life. Whoever comes to me will never be hungry again. Whoever believes in me will never be thirsty. John 6:35
4. Be Selfish
We love it when you think of no one but yourself. It is our favorite when you talk incessantly about your conquests. We adore it when you always pick the restaurant. We appreciate when you never notice our tireless effort. We look forward to following your whims while neglecting the desires of our own heart.
If that sounded promising to you, brother, you are bad off.
In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. 1 Pet. 3:7
5. Be Silent
We want to be heard, but we don’t want a yes man. Speak up doggone it. We want a man with a back bone who is willing to fight for what he believes in.
Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves; ensure justice for those being crushed. Prov. 31:8
6. Be Rude
Good women want a strong man but not a domineering, arrogant jerk. If you want to lose one of the good girls with lightening speed, be rude to the waitress and your mama. That’s a sure-fire way to get her to walk right out the door.
Let your conversation be gracious and attractive… Col. 4:6
7. Be Weak
Good women don’t want to watch you stand there and refuse to offer your strength when it is needed. We need to see you be a man of integrity, made of steel and willing to offer your strength in muscle and spirit.
A wise man is strong. Prov. 24:5
8. Be a Hypocrite
We don’t want to see you say one thing and do another. We don’t want to see you in church on Sunday and defiling your temple on Monday. We don’t want a man who condemns others while avoiding the sin in his own life. We want a man who will self reflect and be willing to judge himself before he judges others.
How can you think of saying, “Friend, let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,” when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye. Luke 6:42
9. Be a Liar
Honorable. Just. Virtuous. Good character. That’s what we want. Don’t feed us empty promises. Don’t act like someone or something that you aren’t. Be true to the core.
And don’t say anything you don’t mean. This counsel is embedded deep in our traditions. You only make things worse when you lay down a smoke screen of pious talk, saying, ‘I’ll pray for you,’ and never doing it, or saying, ‘God be with you,’ and not meaning it. You don’t make your words true by embellishing them with religious lace. In making your speech sound more religious, it becomes less true. Just say ‘yes’ and ‘no.’ When you manipulate words to get your own way, you go wrong. Mt. 5:33-37 MSG
10. Be Wrong
We don’t want a man with bad theology. We don’t want to correct your doctrinal errors. We don’t want to search for God’s will on our own. We want a man who fears the Lord and walks in his statutes.
Serve only the Lord your God and fear him alone. Obey his commands, listen to his voice, and cling to him. Dt. 13:4
This is not a complete list by any means. Nor is it listed by rank or popularity. However, any one of these exponentially multiplies when paired with another. So brothers, step up your game, give your life over completely to Jesus and believe me, you won’t be able to keep a good woman away.
