For Mom On Father’s Day: What Dad Really Needs

So yea, Father’s Day is a day to recognize fathers. We praise them for their love, protection, provision and all the manly stuff they do. But before you run out and buy a cheesy card or waste your money on a gift that  he will feel obligated to use, consider this, there’s more to  Father’s Day than gifts and cards.

This Father’s Day, as women, let’s resolve to give our hearts to our husbands and fathers. Let’s model meaningful relationships to our kids by honoring their dads and grandfathers the way God wants us to.

1. Respect

“…the wife must respect her husband.”

One of man’s most basic needs is respect. Respect is the core of what makes a man feel needed and wanted. It is what fuels his passion for his family. A man who is not motivated to provide and protect spiritually or physically is likely a man who doesn’t feel respected.

We have high demands and expectations on the men in our lives, but we often miss the simplest and most powerful incentive. Respect. If you haven’t noticed, nagging won’t change him or get things done. But a heart that respects him will draw out his best.

2.Trust

“My children, listen when your father corrects you. Pay attention and learn good judgment.”

When your husband or father makes a decision or gives advise don’t ignore him or mock him. Do pay attention and heed his counsel. Show him that you value his wisdom and experience and his ability to lead your family.

3. Affirmation

“So encourage each other and build each other up…”

Tell him. Tell him what is great about him. Tell him what you love about him. Tell him how much you need him and what a difference he has made in your life.

4. Forgiveness

” Now, however, it is time to forgive and comfort him. Otherwise he may be overcome by discouragement. So I urge you now to reaffirm your love for him.”

Remember our husbands and fathers are sinners. They have wronged us. They have indeed hurt us. But let’s never forget they need our grace. They need our grace just as we need the grace of God every day. Let go of the grudges and bitterness and extend love and forgiveness in their place.

The father of godly children has cause for joy. What a pleasure to have children who are wise. Proverbs 23:24