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Why Caitlyn Jenner Can Never Be a Woman

The internet is a buzz with this piece by Denene Millner, Why Rachel Dolezol Can Never Be Black. 

If anyone gets poor Rachel it’s me. When I first connected with the Black community I felt more at home than in my own world. I was drawn to the authenticity. I was drawn to the emotion. I was drawn to the humor.

I remember my first Black funeral. I remember thinking White folks don’t know how to grieve. I suppose I stored that in my heart for the day I would need to grieve that deeply.

I remember my first Black worship service. I remember thinking White folks don’t know how to praise. I still think that sometimes.

I remember as a teenager feeling these are my people. I remember feeling at home. And I was. But at the end of the day I was still White. I was still a girl from a middle class, suburban family whose Dad listened to Bob Dylan. I still had a white family. I still had a very privileged white experience.

I never equated my experience with the Black experience.

That would have just been a lie.

So while I get Rachel, I think she needs some help. She needs help accepting who she is and appreciating the skin God put her in. In the scheme of the powers of the universe, she got a white family and white skin and that’s OK.

Now, what does this mean to the transgender community? How does this translate?

It means, just like Rachel and I can never be black, Caitlyn Jenner can never be a woman. No matter how many times he changes his name, no matter how much make-up, plastic surgery and how big his synthetic boobs are, he can never be a she.

It is genetically impossible. It is anatomically impossible. It is experientially impossible.

…

I remember my first period. My mom left work to bring me my first pack of Stay Frees.

I remember how nervous I was the first time I went swimming during that time of the month. I hoped everything stayed in place.

I remember the fear of walking down the junior high hallway with a stain on my pants and tying a jacket around my waist.

I remember when my period didn’t come one month. I remember my first positive pregnancy test. I remember the feeling of growing life inside of me.

I remember when finally, as a grown woman, I got it. I got my body.  I got my hips. I got my breasts. I got why I had a uterus. My female body was designed to give life and sustain life.

Life-giving is a uniquely female experience. It is only possible by woman. It is so integral to the essence of woman that the first of us was named Eve, “mother of all living.”

When, in this broken world, circumstances or biology prevent a woman from giving life she often fills that emptiness. When this world robs us of the fruit of our womb, life-givers grieve.  We grieve the loss of purpose. We grieve the loss of identity. We grieve the loss of self because we are made to give life not lose it. It isn’t a choice. It isn’t a desire. It is the way of the natural world. It is the design of the universe. We grow life.

So just like Rachel Dolezal can never be black, Caitlyn Jenner can simply never be a woman. And that’s Ok.

When the set time had fully come, God sent his Son, born of a woman… 

 

Mar 5, 2017Serena
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Comments: 7
  1. Peter Blaise
    5 years ago

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    Trans gender females and cis gender females are legally equal in that both have legally equal

    — self identification

    — a state-licensed physician’s supporting statement

    — no operation necessary.

    To try to draw a legal distinction between otherwise legally equal females is prohibited by the 5th and 14th Amendments, Title 9, et alia, and is none of government’s nor public accommodation’s business upon which to discriminate.

    We really have to stop expressing fear and exclusion at perceived differences in our fellow citizens …

    … and start celebrating the inspiration of diversity in each other’s individual expressions of the credo and promise of our Declaration of Independence and the contract of our Constitution, Amendments, legislation, and case law …

    … and honor everyone’s inborn inalienable rights to one’s own life, to one’s own liberty, and to one’s own pursuit of happiness.

    Otherwise, why don’t we just admit that we are not really enamored of the traditional American exceptionalism of respect and inclusion of all our fellow citizens, residents, human beings, as our equals.
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    • Serena
      5 years ago

      Oh Peter, I love you for disagreeing nicely. Your perspective is always welcomed although I disagree. It honestly isn’t motivated by fear. I am just sharing my experience from a biblical world view. Keep coming back and challenging me. I do appreciate the spirit in which you do it.

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      • Peter Blaise
        5 years ago

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        I’m just trying to be welcoming and celebrating of God’s gift of Two-Spirit Angels sent to make peace between the otherwise warring genders.

        Many cultures, including American and Asian Indians, accept their trans gender children with the same wonder and adulation and support that any child deserves.

        When Jesus is reported to have told us to love, what’s to argue and disagree with?

        If you can find any Biblical support for treating our trans gender children otherwise, please share.
        __________

        And whatever cultural experience you and Rachel Dolezol shared as growing children and young adults is not on the human hormone spectrum from female-to-male development in the womb, where the gender of our various endocrine subsystems are fully formed before birth :

        — our gonads form in the first trimester under one hormone wash,

        — our brain forms in the second trimester under another hormone wash,

        — and if there is variance in the washes or receptivity,

        — then our gonads and brain may form different genders,

        — all in the womb, before birth,

        — this is 20+ years of settled science.

        Most people think with and identify with their brains ( though some people do appear to identify with and think with their gonads, sad to say ! ).
        __________

        Do you know any females who never got their period, are they not women?

        Do you know any women who never gave birth, are they not women?

        I also know women who’s period never stopped, requiring medical intervention, and women who gave birth so often they went insane, leaving their children motherless while institutionalized between babies, the children raising each other while dad worked three shifts.

        Your personal experience of your own femaleness does not even define you, let alone what it is to be a woman.

        Caitlyin Jenner has done nothing to diminish or denigrate you, or anyone.

        Au contraire, her story is a compelling one of personal suffering and anguish trying to figure out her identity and place in the world with absolutely no support from her family or society.

        Can you imagine doing that yourself?

        She became one of the world’s most successful male athletes, and still her self-awareness of being female persisted.

        Can you imagine doing that yourself?

        Caitlyn Jenner’s lifelong strength and stamina remind me most of my own mother, so, perhaps those traits are the most defining traits for some women.
        __________

        Can you imagine being a trans gender child, and reading your derogatory dismissal of one of the world’s most well-known trans gender people?

        The last thing I would ever dream of doing would be to try to limit anyone’s self-fulfillment potential in any way.

        No more second class citizens, ever, please — thank you.
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        • Sandi
          5 years ago

          Peter, thank you for what you said about a woman shouldn’t be defined by the fact that she can give birth. I’m glad you pointed that out as there are many women who greatly desire to give birth and simply aren’t able to. That doesn’t make them any less of a woman by any means! Thank you for reminding us of that truth.

          There is another Truth that can’t be ignored, and it’s the Word of God. I don’t know if you believe in the Bible or not, but the God of the Bible would never condemn a behavior that wasn’t a “choice.” He says a man who acts like a female is sinning. Much worse, He says such a person cannot inherit the Kingdom of Heaven. BUT God wants ALL to be saved, so He’s provided a way for us to have salvation. There were Christians in the first century (in the Bible) who used to be homosexuals, “effeminate” (which describes Bruce/Caitlyn Jenner), etc, that found salvation. 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 shows this:
          “Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God. Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God.”

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  2. Sandi
    5 years ago

    Very powerful. Thank you, Serena.

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  3. TransDelusion
    5 years ago

    The only transition possible for a person who believes that he or she is transgender is from a whole person to a person with a mutilated body.

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  4. Kylie
    5 years ago

    This is very ignorant of the fact that there are many, many people assigned female at birth (who typically have X chromosomes and a vulva) will never have a period or be have to have biological children. Also, what does this say of intersex people with XXY chromosomes or who present as female externally but have testes internally? Saying “My female body was designed to give life and sustain life” makes it seem like females who cannot do this, who cannot sustain a pregnancy are somehow missing the whole point of their lives.
    I implore you to think about the parent who would read this and who may have a child who is intersex or trans. You are not pouring love into that family, only misunderstanding and hate.

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