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Being the Woman You Want Your Daughters To Be

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A few years ago, well probably more like 10 years ago, I was watching an episode of Oprah talking about mother/daughter issues. Basically they were saying that moms pass their issues onto their daughters. If we tell our daughters “You are beautiful” but we criticize our own body type, hair style or wrinkles our daughters will internalize our actions not our empty chatter.

So the danger is that mom’s who have body issues have girls with body issues. Moms with eating issues have girls with eating issues and moms with man issues have girls with man issues.

Did you know the Bible says the same thing? Some people call it a generational curse.

The LORD is slow to anger and filled with unfailing love, forgiving every kind of sin and rebellion. But he does not excuse the guilty. He lays the sins of the parents upon their children; the entire family is affected–even children in the third and fourth generations. Numbers 14:18

When I became the mother of daughter #1 this generational curse terrified me. I knew the skeletons in my family’s closet. I accused God of ill planning and mistake making.

Then daughter #2 came and God spoke truth. You will break the pattern. You will break the curse.

Then daughter #3, #4 #5 came and truth was screaming at me louder than I could ever ignore.

Over the years I have been aware of the way I talk about myself, how I treat their father, how I treat my mother, etc. My girls will become me. They are learning who they are from me. ME!  That’s pretty terrifying too.

It is also one of the driving forces behind my business venture (Captivating Salon & Boutique). I have never owned a business before. I have never even worked in a salon before. I have never done any of this before.

But I did it because:

I never want my daughters to face life with fear.

God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control. 2 Tim. 1:7

I never want my daughters to be crippled by self-doubt.

For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago. Eph. 2:10

I never want my daughters to wonder if God can.

Every time someone asks me how many years have I been doing this or what training I have, it will be a testimony to a God who can.

Otherwise, you may say in your heart, “My power and the strength of my hand made me this wealth.” But you shall remember the Lord your God, for it is He who is giving you power to make wealth Dt. 8:17-18

Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us. Eph. 3:20

Feb 19, 2015Serena
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  1. angela sowards
    8 years ago

    I agree 100% in this I have not been a perfect mom by all means but goodness I did a wonderful job being a mom to my 2 girls! I carried myself with pride respect and compassion and they have followed suit. Now they both are such wonderful teenagersI cldnt ask for anything better than them and iit’s all from the way mom teaches them

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8 years ago 1 Comment Kids, Motherhood, Mothers and Daughters, Parenting, Uncategorized, Womanhoodmothers and daughters, raising godly children591
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