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5 Good Reasons To Get A Divorce

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You may be on the cusp of the biggest decision of your life… well, next to getting married. Now you have to decide if you should get divorced. Well think about this. Here are 5 good reasons to do it and what the bible says about them.

God wants me to be happy.

Of course he does. That is exactly why he let Joseph be sold into slavery, had Jeremiah wear a wooden yoke and willed his Son to be sacrificed on a cross. God is always going for happy.

For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him. Phil 1:29

I don’t deserve to be treated like this.

No you don’t you don’t deserve to be unappreciated, over worked and ignored. You deserve better- a lot better. If you don’t stand up for yourself no one will.

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Eph. 4:2

I just don’t love him any more.

It happens to the best of us. You can’t be expected to love someone who is unlovable.

If anyone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen. 1 John 4:20

We are better apart. 

That’s right. Sometimes it is just better to do it alone.

A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. Ecc. 4:12

The kids deserve it.

The kids are better off to see their parents happy. They shouldn’t have to see you fight. Divorce would be better.

Didn’t the LORD make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth. Mal. 2:15

Marriage is a tough decision.

Staying married is a harder one. If you are struggling to stay in your marriage I completely understand. I know those moments that try you to the core. I know the feeling of wanting to jump out of a moving car to get away or dreaming of walking out the front door and never coming back. I have been there.

I have seethed with hatred, regretted and hoped for so much more than what I got.

Then God asked me to take my “good” reasons and match them to his word.

God reminded me that on November 8, 1997 in the back of a stale VFW hall, on a drenched fall day in Columbus, Ohio, I told that man I would stay. I told a room full of family and friends I would stay. I told my God I would stay.

So I stayed.

I stayed despite my disappointments. I stayed when I felt rejected. I stayed when I was angry. I stayed when I thought it was all a big mistake. I stayed.

And guess what? I am glad I did.

And the Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness… And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them. from Rom. 8

Mar 17, 2015Serena
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Comments: 7
  1. Peggy Stewart
    8 years ago

    Yep. I’m glad I stayed, too.

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  2. Lori
    8 years ago

    Me, three.

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  3. christian fernandez
    8 years ago

    I came across this article on Facebook and found it interesting, so I decided to go ahead and read it. Have you all not read Mathew 5:31-32? What about romans 7:3? Are we reading and applying the teachings of Christ which came from the Father in us? Or are you creating your own ” way ” ? Although there are bible verses here, it seems clear to me through the bible that the only reason for a married couple to have the possibility to get divorce is if sexual immorality is in the equation. Is not every other excuse irrelevant in God’s eyes? Like for example, ” i dont love him or her anymore” or ” we deserve to be apart” If it was OK to be divorced just for having those feelings would you not think Christ himself would said so? Follow what pleases God not what pleasures yourself. At least this is what I have gathered from reading the bible of this topic, I still have much to learn.

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    • Bonnie
      8 years ago

      Hi Christian! I really like your post because it points to scripture. If I can speak for the author of this blogpost, I believe that the 5 Good Reasons at the beginning were intended to be read with a bit of sarcasm. They are “good reasons” in the eyes of the world only. You are right about what the Scriptures teach. Marriage is for life unless sexual infidelity has entered into the marriage. And from what I’ve read on Serena’s blog, I’m pretty sure she would agree, but I’ll let her speak for herself.

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  4. heidy
    7 years ago

    I am thanking God right now for the words that I have read. I have been seeking out the answer from God about leaving my husband. Not only has he made it very clear to me today on what I should do, he has just placed piece on my heart about it. Me and my husband have been struggling for a few years in our marriage and he does believe in God but at this time refuses to follow him. It has been a very hard struggle for me to be in this situation because I see how easy Satan creeps in when we are not equally yolked. I just canceled the apartment in which I was going to rent…I will carry my cross to the finish line and trust completely in the lord. Praise be to my Father…♡

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    • Serena
      7 years ago

      Praise indeed! My prayers are with you today sweet sister!

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    • Trina
      7 years ago

      Heidy,
      I realize you wrote this two months ago , hope your & pray your situation has improved! I just saw a movie last night, title War Room! It is about prayer & asking God to fight your battles for you. I hope you have the opportunity to see it!
      Praying for you & your husband!

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