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10 Things That Make People Hate Your Kids

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“The proverbs of Solomon: A wise child brings joy to a father; a foolish child brings grief to a mother.” Prov. 10:1

Let’s just deal with the elephant in the room. There are kids that nobody wants to be around.  I mean no. body. Kids you avoid inviting for play dates. Kids you avoid babysitting. Kids you just plain avoid. If you don’t know any, chances are good that they are your kids.

Here’s how to tell. If your kid:

1. Doesn’t Listen

Even with your best mean voice and threatening the dreaded count down, your kid still refuses to clean up his toys or put his shoes on. Whether you tell your kid to come here or stop running into oncoming traffic, chances are he is not complying.  No one wants a high-risk kid around. It’s dangerous.

2. Doesn’t Share

After multiple, repeated, repeated again requests, your kid still takes other people’s toys.  A severe case of the “no shares” will be evident in a kid who takes a toy that  he otherwise would have no interest in.  No one wants to be around a selfish toy snatcher. Period.

3. Hits

Or kicks. Or bites. Or pulls hair. If your kid has done this more than once, other children are going to be understandably apprehensive. Other mom’s resist subjecting their kids to that. Abusive children are really no fun at all.

4. Doesn’t Eat

“YUCK!” If your kid ever responds like this to a plate of food, he is not going to the top of anyone’s re-invite list. Ingratitude is a most repelling quality in a child.

5. Whines

Finger nails on a chalkboard are more tolerable than a kid who won’t stop whining. From the “gimme’s” to the “I don’t wanna’s”, incessant whining is sure to drive away potential playmates and old women at church in droves.

6. Throws Tantrums

Does your kid have a tendency to  kick and scream? Throw things? Foam at the mouth?  That kid is a total drag. Not only are other kids a little freaked out by it, adults are stressed out by it.

7.  Disrespectful

Does your kid talk to you or other adults like a peer? Is your kid demanding or bossy to adults? Are “please” and “thank-you” like a foreign language? Then your insolent, little child bears more challenge than cheer.

8. Says No

If little Bobby frequently refuses other people’s polite requests, Bobby is going to get left out.  Other parents watch Bobby repeatedly tell you “no” wonder when you will put a stop to his verbal abuse.

9. Tattletails

No kid wants all their dirty laundry aired out to adults. I mean, some things are best left in the sacred trust of other kids. And other moms really don’t want to hear how unfair their child is being in a game of tag. Unless someone is on fire, some things are best left unsaid.

10. Bossy

If your kid is always gets to be the teacher, changes the rules of the game or points a finger at other children, you’ve got a bossy one on your hands. Other kids don’t want to be bossed. Other moms don’t want their kid being pushed around. Maybe your kid bosses you around. That’s worse.

The unfortunate reality is… I have a couple of these kids in my brood as well. So starting today I’m going to:

Stop being permissive. NO is a completely underused word in my vocabulary. No doesn’t require an explanation. No is non-negotiable.

Stop feeling guilty. If I haven’t read enough stories or created enough childhood magic for the day, I feel guilty. I feel so guilty that I start being permissive.

Stop yelling. Loud moms are sadly more annoying than their obnoxious kids. I’m going to tone it down and  hopefully spread some zen.

Expect the best. Kids rise or fall to our expectations. Today I am going to expect pleasant, polite, God-fearing children. I am going encourage excellence.

Now hopefully we will get invited to more play dates.

 

Apr 22, 2014Serena
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Comments: 6
  1. Lori
    8 years ago

    Excellent, Serena. Every kid tries on at least a couple of these behaviors. The trick is to make it so counterproductive that they realize immediately there is no profit in continuing down THAT road. Bless you in your mothering today. And remember, keep your dignity. 😉

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  2. Chelsea
    8 years ago

    Oh man this is so true! I always have to wonder in my children are like this. Sometimes I feel like I cant keep up, I try my best but I have learned that I must hold discipline, but at the same time I have to learn how they function in order to find how to properly correct them, what I comprehend they may not therefore I have to correct them on their level. I can however very much relate to other people’s children being like this. I have one friend that comes to my house and her children are sooooo much to handle! At one point they even was flipping breakers on my breaker box! I was ready to kill them! I literally feel like I need nerve pills when they visit! Mom just doesnt seem to care, or has given up because they outnumber her. Now we rarely have play dates, and if we do, it is at the park where they cant hurt anything!

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  3. Cassie
    8 years ago

    It is confirmed. Everyone hates my kid.

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    • Serena
      8 years ago

      It’s ok. I have 6 of them. There’s hope.

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  4. Michelle
    8 years ago

    This is perfect! My kids are now 14 & 17. Guess what??? Applies now more than ever 🙂 Agree 100%!

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  5. Hal Hammons
    8 years ago

    Always right on point. I would add one more mandate for parents — stop making excuses for the child. Every brat child has mitigating circumstances; that doesn’t mean he/she isn’t a brat, and it certainly doesn’t mean the parent can’t do anything about it.

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Serena
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