And the two shall become one…
The kind of guy a girl needs to marry is the only kind of guy she needs to date.
Guys be this. Girls hold out for this.
1. She needs a man.
If you are living in your mama’s house, you’re not a man. It’s time to man up fellas. And ladies, its time to expect it.
Take courage and be a man. 1 Kings 2:2
2. She needs a grown-up.
She doesn’t need a little boy. She doesn’t need to be your mama. She doesn’t need an obsessed gamer or sports fanatic. She doesn’t need to do your laundry or pay your bills. She needs a grown man who can be her companion and she can be his.
When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 1 Cor 13:11
3. She needs a godly man.
Before you pursue the woman, pursue God. Ladies, before you say yes to the first date, you better know if he has a heart for his Creator.
- Rise up, O men of God!
- Have done with lesser things.
- Give heart and soul and mind and strength
- To serve the King of Kings. – William P. Merrill
4. She needs a working man.
She doesn’t need luxury. She does need reliability. Be responsible. Work hard for her. Have a plan to provide for your woman. Ladies, if he isn’t ready to provide for a family he is not date-able. Period.
Since Jacob was in love with Rachel, he told her father, “I’ll work for you for seven years if you’ll give me Rachel, your younger daughter, as my wife.” Gen. 29:18
For even when we were with you, we gave you this rule: “The one who is unwilling to work shall not eat.” 2 Thes. 3:10
Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.1 Tim. 5:8
5. She needs a fighter.
Fight for her. Stand up for her. Speak up and wield weapons when necessary. Nothing fires up my admiration for a man more than knowing he’d die protecting me. Nothing discourages me more than an apathetic couch potato. So fight for her safety. Fight for her spirit. Fight for her soul.
When I saw their fear, I rose and spoke to the nobles, the officials and the rest of the people: “Do not be afraid of them; remember the Lord who is great and awesome, and fight for your brothers, your sons, your daughters, your wives and your houses. Neh. 4:14
6. She needs the real deal.
False bravado. Masking your insecurities. Pretending to be someone you aren’t… She can’t love you if she doesn’t know you. Take the walls down and show her who you really are. The love from a person who knows our flaws is a love worth the risk of being vulnerable.
Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. James 5:16
7. She needs an understanding man.
She needs you to listen. She needs you to see her. She needs to know you get her. When she feels tired, unappreciated, unloved and unlovable, she needs you to understand.
Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. 1 Pet. 3:7
8. She needs a man who honors God-centered marriage.
Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. Heb 13:4
Guys, there is no greater cruelty than to degrade a woman for her body and risk her eternity for your own self-gratification. If he expects you to get into bed and compromise yourself, run (2 Tim. 2:22). Marriage was created by God from the beginning of time. Honor it. Save yourself for it. Pledge yourself to it. Make sure the sacred vows of marriage are honored before and after the “I DO’s.”
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