You may be on the cusp of the biggest decision of your life… well, next to getting married. Now you have to decide if you should get divorced. Well think about this. Here are 5 good reasons to do it and what the bible says about them.
God wants me to be happy.
Of course he does. That is exactly why he let Joseph be sold into slavery, had Jeremiah wear a wooden yoke and willed his Son to be sacrificed on a cross. God is always going for happy.
For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him. Phil 1:29
I don’t deserve to be treated like this.
No you don’t you don’t deserve to be unappreciated, over worked and ignored. You deserve better- a lot better. If you don’t stand up for yourself no one will.
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Eph. 4:2
I just don’t love him any more.
It happens to the best of us. You can’t be expected to love someone who is unlovable.
If anyone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen. 1 John 4:20
We are better apart.
That’s right. Sometimes it is just better to do it alone.
A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. Ecc. 4:12
The kids deserve it.
The kids are better off to see their parents happy. They shouldn’t have to see you fight. Divorce would be better.
Didn’t the LORD make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth. Mal. 2:15
Marriage is a tough decision.
Staying married is a harder one. If you are struggling to stay in your marriage I completely understand. I know those moments that try you to the core. I know the feeling of wanting to jump out of a moving car to get away or dreaming of walking out the front door and never coming back. I have been there.
I have seethed with hatred, regretted and hoped for so much more than what I got.
Then God asked me to take my “good” reasons and match them to his word.
God reminded me that on November 8, 1997 in the back of a stale VFW hall, on a drenched fall day in Columbus, Ohio, I told that man I would stay. I told a room full of family and friends I would stay. I told my God I would stay.
So I stayed.
I stayed despite my disappointments. I stayed when I felt rejected. I stayed when I was angry. I stayed when I thought it was all a big mistake. I stayed.
And guess what? I am glad I did.